“What are you harboring in your heart that you have yet to forgive them for?” I was watching The Shack the other day; that’s when I heard these words. “Who have you not forgiven?” These words stuck, possibly even stung… Yeah they stung. They hurt. So much so that I can still feel the piercing … More Transitions + Forgiveness
Love. What is it really? Is it a feeling? Is it an action? Is it a word to describe a feeling or an action? Or is it something else. The bible says that “…God loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him would have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) … More Compromise?!
Over the course of my blog, I’ve shared several posts regarding my love life. You’ve read the good, the bad, and the ugly. You’ve read stories that went from love to the struggles of being in an abusive relationship. You’ve even had a chance to laugh as I chronicled some of my experiences. All-in-all, you’ve had … More Letter to Single Women: He Makes Me Happy
Dear brothas, And by brothas…I mean you chocolatey, fine men. And you caramel pieces of handsomeness. And you light-skinned sons-of-a-shut-yo-mouth. Yes you. Those who I love to look at, talk to, and flirt with. Still wondering? I may be talking to you. Brothers…it’s hard out here for a black woman…married and single. I read so many columns … More Black Men… Step Up So We Don’t Have To Step Down
The beginning of 2014 was literally 367 days ago. Now that I look back, it’s amazing to see how much life can progress in those days. (For some reason, I’m not into talking about how life changed. It’s feeling more like movement than change…maybe this will prompt another post, who knows?) Anyhoo…I ended 2014 determined … More My Life in 2014 – Part 1: Escaping Abuse
Dedicated to all my single homies. CAUTION: A few italics may or may not have prematurely lost their lives during the development of this post. 🙂 After clicking on a link on my friends blog the other day, I promptly landed on a mommy blog, and I felt my frustration-level rise almost immediately. It was the feeling … More 50+ Pretty Awesome Things About Being Single
Today, I went on a date. And it was great. We played basketball and then we went for a ride on his moped…wind flying in my hair. To make a long story short, I really like this guy, but there is one HUGE flaw. No, he’s not an ex-con – been there – he has … More Sunday night thoughts
And he may have been cyber-stalking me for all of 3 seconds…and then I blocked him. The chronicles of online dating continue. [He likes my photo.] [Wait! What is that beard?!] [WHAT! Age: 47] [He likes another photo.] [AND ANOTHER PHOTO] YOU LOOK SO GOOD. AND YOUR EYES ARE SO SEDUCTIVE. AND YOU LIPS… [OH … More I’m pretty sure he was an ex-con
“2014 will be a year of peace. If you bring drama, you may as well leave. I cannot be scared of those who may leave. I cannot be afraid of what I cannot see.” – written on the inside cover of my journal at the end of 2013. Sometimes big changes require drastic changes. “2014 will … More Reflections of 2014 – Drastic changes
What lies beneath. That was the name of a movie, right? That’s exactly what this moment right now represents. With all the amazing things that have happened to me – all the peace and prosperity I’ve felt as of late – I hate that right now at this very moment I feel as if I’m … More Past Midnight. Can’t Sleep.
[Sees picture.] He’s kinda cute. [Clicks picture. Views more pictures.] He’s cute but looks a little weird. [Oh. He’s online. Click to chat. Small talk.] Then it begins… Him: Can I ask you a question? Me: What? Him: Nevermind. Me: Whatever? Him: I don’t want to ask. You may feel some type of way. Me: Well, you … More Chronicles of Online Dating: This guy
Why are you still single? Do you want to have kids? Are y’all still together? Why not? Are you dating someone? Do you want to get married? When do you plan on getting married? Men like… [fill in the blank] Try not being so picky. Dear married people, Yes I am still single. It’s not … More Hated Questions and Comments from a Single’s Perspective
You shouldn’t let him go. Ladies, don’t complain about the notion that there’s no good men out there. Problem #1: You want a saved thug. Once a thug. Always a thug. Mentally, that is. Thugs have some twisted ways of thinking Problem #2: He’s too soft. Well, I to begin, I don’t have a soft … More When You Find a Good Man